Tinder: Two Perspectives

Watching the documentary in class on Wednesday left me physically sick and I felt such a pain in my stomach to the ways that people date. It made me grateful for the info I’m learning now about God’s intentions for my dating life. (Check out Levi Lusko’s Book “Swipe Right” for more awesome info I wish I had in middle school.)

I made it known that me and my boyfriend met on Tinder and we have been dating for two years. I shared with him about the documentary and I thought I would share his prospective. He’s 23 and has never been to college. Out of the 60 people he matched with on Tinder, I was one of 3 people who agreed to meet him and I was the only one who actually followed through with that agreement. To compare I had matched with over 400 people for the two years (on and off) I was using the app. He used the app for maybe 6 months. I shared that some of the tweets in our conversation had to do with women being too picky and how it wasn’t that bad to be a woman on an online dating app. My boyfriend had this to say about it:

“Well that’s really too bad. I’ve only seen or heard about a few couples that met like we did and had long term success. The dating world does suck for women. They’re two types of guys on dating sites; the disturbing, disgusting, and degrading men you’re seeing in class [in the documentary] is one. The other type is the caring, kind, and genuine guys that are constantly overshadowed by the other dickheads out there. I know your tinder experiences sucked, and mine did too. I had over 60 matches in the 6 months I used it. Around 30 actually responded to me, but the conversation died quickly. Only 3 people actually said they’d meet me in person. 1 backed out when I asked for a time/place, 1 rescheduled multiple times and I never even met her. You were the only 1 out of 60+ that even met with me, and we still almost didn’t make it in the beginning. So I can understand why the guys in your class think women are too picky, because they are. But they should be and I’m glad they are. I just think some of those women are terrible at deciphering at which men to be picky for. There seems to be two types of women on dating sites. One type is those looking for hookups and are attracted to those “bad boys” that have always given my type of guy problems since the world has existed. The other type is the kind, caring, and genuine people like you! Online dating is just frustrating, disturbing, and scary in general for everyone. It’s all different kinds of people all looking for something different, but all of them looking for what they call love, which has a different meaning for everyone lol. If we really look at it, online dating is set up for its users to fail way more often that it is for success. All the more reason for those of us that found our significant other to praise and thank God for blessing us with something so unlikely. Plus a reason to look back on how stupid we were to even try online dating, especially Tinder, in the first place 😂”

He has a great point, we all go online to find “love” but it means different things to everyone. Love for me was finding a man who loves Jesus and wanted a real relationship of growing closer to God together. Ultimately I found what I was looking for, but I chose to go on awful dates, swipe through a million profiles, hoping that someone was a Christian even though they didn’t put it in their profile. I received SO many unwanted pictures, awful, harassing messages. But I found what I wanted in the end. Doesn’t mean it was the right tool, but it does mean that God can use circumstances that you were never meant to see for His glory, and THAT is what makes our story awesome. Oh, and also, his first message to me 😂

Enjoy some other photos from our relationship, he’s pretty cool.